So the day has finally come when you, your pianist and recording engineer can all come together at the same time and give birth to the most beautiful musical creation this world has ever heard! — oh no, but wait…you forgot one thing. Did you remember to bring all your copies of music? Did you correctly mark each copy with the right measure numbers? Did you call or text a reminder to the pianist to get there 10 minutes before hand?

Shhh, love. You got this all covered. Why? Because you’ve read my blog before-hand, so now you’re ready and prepared as ever!  

So without further adieu!:   

Top 5 Tips on How to Prepare for Your Professional Voice Recording

#1. GET A GOOD NIGHT’S SLEEP - That means no loud social gatherings or alcohol consumption the day before either - and if you think you can get away by whispering throughout the day you are TERRIBLY wrong. 

When you whisper you’re actually squeezing your vocal cords together more tightly, which can literally damage your pipes.

SAY WHAAA? So next time you want to whisper, don't. Talk softly instead. The voice you would use is if you want to talk to somebody next to you without having other people in the room hear.

#2. WHAT TO WEAR — “Should I wear those sexy heels?” Save 'em for the hot date afterwards. You want to avoid wearing anything that could possibly make sound, such as jewelry, crinkly shirts, squeaky shoes or heels. When you record you want to be as comfortable as possible. Don’t wear anything too tight either and make sure the material is breathable - trust me, you will be sweating bullets. 

#3. HAVE YOUR MUSIC PREPARED BEFOREHAND — I’ll never forget when Marilyn Horne told me, “Confidence comes from preparation.” Having your music prepared before hand not only shows good musicianship, but could save you from catastrophe. (Oh believe me, I’ve heard some major horror stories.)

That means multiple copies of the music for yourself, your pianist AND your recording engineer. Triple check that every page is in order. That also means making sure each measure is correctly numbered and marked - have someone proof read this for you.  

***Just beware that the more time you spend fiddling with papers, the less time you have ultimately to do what you went in there for in the first place — record! Trust me, you’ll need to take one or perhaps a couple vocal breaks and rest during your session. So remember, the easiest way to quiet down a worried mind is if you triple check these things before hand so that you when the time comes, you can waltz right in there with your fine, confident self and WERK that voce like yo mama gave you!   

#4. GRAB BAG — Fully stocked with all vocal essentials that should be near you: 

  • Water for you
  • Water for your pianist
  • EXTRA water
  • Tissues
  • Pencil (wood preferably - mechanical makes noise)
  • Extra copy of music (like I said, you just never know)
  • Liquifyers (aka anything that is saliva producing such as Apple slices, tea, honey, gum, honey drops, gummy bears, etc…)
  • Snack
  • Camera (for some “behind the scenes” shots perfect for social media)
  • Tip book (your tiny booklet of Go-To reminders with helpful tips and tricks to look over and make sure you remember right before you sing. Example: A quick and easy reminder on correct breathing, grounding, placement (third eye/inner smile) and posture. This alone can save you tons of time and money in the studio or help you ace that big audition or performance. Here's an inside look of my tip book:

#5. HAVE FUN — Let’s be real. You’re a BEAST on the stage, but standing in front of a microphone in one place without the ability to move much makes you feel antsy and all you want to do instead is sing your face off in the shower. Recording professionally can be extremely stressful — especially when you take into account the cost of recording (typically $150 per hour, not including mixing costs) and not to mention you’re already a perfectionist to begin with, so that doesn’t help. 

Remember why you’re in love with singing in the first place and how amazing it makes you and your fans feel. And if all else, read some funny jokes before hand to get your mind off of things. You should also have a "Joke Book". This could even be a collection of funny memes in a folder on your Smartphone.

Whatever the case, know that you CAN be CONFIDENT because YOU are PREPARED. And like her or not, Marilyn Horne’s right. Where does confidence come from? Preparation. 

Now go forth and give birth to all those beautiful creations! Don’t forget to share them with the public as well as some cool behind the scenes moments!

Signing out, 


Me in the studio *wink*





What motivates us? What holds us back?

The answer is actually pretty simple. 

Since I’m battling bronchitis for the past week and a half, I woke up at 3:30am and got up to make some tea to help with my coughing. As I was waiting for the water to boil, I opened up Instagram and saw this picture:

(Photo credit: Instagram: annika.1a) 

(Photo credit: Instagram: annika.1a) 

Immediately I thought, "OMG THAT'S SO MY STYLE", "Peter Rabbit, England <3" and “Fence...what’s holding us back?”. I ran to get my laptop and started spewing out what was on my mind. (When those creative juices flow, it’s like everything else around me stops in order for me to write it down before it goes away.) 

So what does hold us back in life? What’s held me back? Have I really been holding back all along, or have I actually been moving forward this entire time to lead me to where I am today?

See, when I was in Europe for my audition tour this past fall, I got to travel in three different countries. I literally booked a one way flight and didn't know when I was coming back. (I know it sounds easy, but in reality it took me an entire year just to finally hit that “Pay" button for my airplane ticket.) It was a lot of money for me, but I didn't have a job and it was a risk I knew I needed to take.  (That's where most of the job opportunities for opera are).

And we all know what traveling does to us... 

It opens our minds to see what it’s like living in a different culture, to see and meet more people in a different light than ever before (and when I mean different, it’s totally not like hopping on a train and people watching in NYC).

(Some photos I took in Germany — Instagram: lillahs)

You see in the places I went (Germany, Austria, Switzerland), people take life waaay slower than we do here in America. People actually spend time with their families. They cook together, sing together, go outside and hike together. When you go to a supermarket, instead of seeing pajamas, yoga pants and Snuggies being sold, you see skii pants, goggles, gloves, hiking sticks and boots! Their culture naturally supports going out and being physically active! 

It’s only here in America where people spend the majority of their free time watching hours upon hours of TV shows and kids have lost the free will to even go outside. Schools don’t even recognize the importance of recess or nap time anymore and have made significant cut backs. 

Wake up America, our children are suffering. YOU are suffering. 

You go to work and come home all tired just to wake up and do it all over again. But when you go to Spain, or anywhere in Europe, they take mid day siestas, close their shops at 6 or 8pm and nothing, I mean NOTHING is open on Sundays. 

Sure it’s annoying that you can’t go to the supermarket to buy your eggs, but you learn to get prepared the day before. And for me just knowing that those people who work there can spend more time with their families makes it all the worth me not going to pick up my eggs or orange juice. 

You see growing up in a European, Transylvanian house-hold, we went outside, threw around a soccer ball and we sang Hungarian Christmas songs all the time. Haha pretty funny, now that I think of it. No wonder I love Christmas so much — it’s that time when we can all get together, sing songs and harmonize about Mother Mary and little baby Jesus. 

Yeah that whole presents thing is cute, but it's really the least important thing. We all have smart phones, like what more do you need? Oh, a hover board? Nah, I think I'll stick with my skateboard, thanks. Or better yet — my new car!!! (Thank you God!)

And by the way —  when my parents were kids and got presents they were LUCKY when they got an orange, because their country didn’t import oranges to begin with. Yeah, it was a HUGE deal.

American media and culture is jam packed to program our minds to think that material goods can bring us satisfaction. That new diamond necklace, or watch. That new pair of Air Jordans. 

My sister and I would take piano lessons and listen to Chopin, ah the good ol' days. Piano music by the way is the best music to listen to in the car or when it’s raining. But now schools are cutting OUT arts education and music programs all together.

"WHAT? You mean I can’t take art, theater or choir anymore? What gives people?! Art was my favorite class!" - me

Many years ago my sister sent me a video of this guy named Adam Braun, who was in India and he saw a small boy begging in the streets. He went up and asked him, “What do you want most in the world?”

“A pencil,” the boy replied.

So he reached into his backpack, handed him his pencil, and watched as a wave of possibility washed over the boy. A smile erupted and his eyes brightened. Adam saw the profound power and promise brought through something as small as a giving a pencil to just one child! 

Over the next five years, he backpacked through more than 50 countries, handing out thousands of pens and pencils across six continents. These pencils, these small pieces of potential, led to powerful conversations with local parents and children across countless cultures and languages. 

Since starting with just a $25 deposit, he created his own foundation, Pencils of Promise and has now built more than 300 schools.

"True self discovery is where your comfort zone ends." - Adam Braun

Traveling forces you to realize that material goods aren’t necessary when the only clothes you need are the ones on your back. And when you're traveling like I did, you can't really carry more than just two pairs of shirts and pants. 

So as I was Googling Adam, I found a speech he gave at THRIVE where he talks about how he heard the popular TED talk by Dan Pink on the topic of What Actually Motivates us as Individuals?" and motivates our employees as well. 

And it turns out it’s pretty surprising when you break down the science into three key factors:

1. Autonomy (the ability to dictate our own path)

2. Mastery (the urge to get better at stuff, like playing a guitar or learning how to sing)

3. Purpose/Meaning (this idea that we crave connection to a broader whole, that we want to be part of something more than ourselves, and that ultimately what we endure in each and every one of our lives is the legacy of what we leave behind)

Going to Germany changed my life in so many ways. It made me realize that the idea of moving somewhere else or even finding someone else to make you happy isn't true. Happiness is within you and is always with you wherever you go! You just have to remember to tap into it. 

I quickly realized what’s most important in my life and my deep appreciation and love for my country rekindled, igniting into a burst of flames. "Murica!", "Land of the free and home of the brave", "USA!", "Jersey strong."

I began writing down a list of the most important things in my life and what I’m willing and not willing to sacrifice. Heres my list:

What I want in life:

1. Car — Laugh all you want, but I’ve always been nostalgic about cars. That’s why whenever I was in Germany I’d always take the bus instead of the train — I just love the feeling of a road trip or to listen to my music in my car. Just the thrill of going somewhere new. 

2. House/home — Again, I’m a country girl, and I’ve always wanted a place to roam and have space to practice in…living in NYC I felt like a rat in a cage.

3. Cat or dog — I’ve had a cat for 22 years, he was the love of my life, my prince of Darkness. My trooper. I think of him every day, have his portrait on my wall with those amazing eyes. It’s time to make way for a reincarnated kitty that looks just like him!

4. Have a family — Because until now I’ve never even had time to think about this! One day I’m going to want to have kids and if I don’t start thinking about it, sooner or later that moment will pass away. I need to stop with all the traveling for now, find a place to commit and slowly begin to establish my future life.

These two kind of go hand-in-hand:

5. Volunteer — At a hospital or church. 

6. Teach — Teach kids about technology. Work with orphans. Work for the blind. Work with animals. Teach others.

7. Learn more about God, read the bible — I’ve always had this feeling of him in my life, and bible study at Juilliard literally saved me from all the anxiety. It’s time I found a spiritual group of people I can turn to, who can help me learn to read the word and with whom I can pray. 

8. Make movies — I've always been really passionate about tech since I was a kid, whether editing videos, audio, photo, web design or coding.

9. Make a product and hold a successful business

11. Write a book — I used to write a lot when I was younger to deal with all crap around me at school. Jealous boys, jealous girls, name calling, back stabbing, who got the best grade. All the works.

12. Make a class — goes hand in hand with teaching.

13. Go to more live events

14. Hold and active life/work out — I love to run and go on hikes. Being in nature frees my soul and allows my mind to sharpen. Another reason why I could never live in NYC.

15. Travel visit the wild horses, Grand Cannon, Texas, Tennessee, Rhode Island, Portland, Yosemite, Machu Pichu, Appalachian trail, Spain, Italy again, Japan, get on a moped in Hawaii or somewhere warm.  

And that’s it! 

Nowhere on there does it say “crystal necklace” or “stiletto heels”. Because none of that $%*# means anything to me. 

Just like Dan Pink said, I want purpose, meaning, be able to build my life the way I want to, master my teaching and my craft, give back and so much more! 

So when I look back at all the ways I might’ve failed in life, I realize I was on the right path all along. Thanks to the grace of God. I witnessed Him a lot in Germany. I witnessed miracles to the point where now I think and thank Him every day. Not just in good times or bad but every day. 

If you or anyone you know might be going through something, don’t just give them a bible. I can’t tell you how many times I picked it up and put it that ish right back down. Who has the freakin time to read all this anyway? Tell them how God's worked in your life, who you were before and who you are now. Don't be shy about telling the truth, no matter how dark or ugly it is. And show them something specifically in the word that's helped change you to be better.

Know that when people witnessed certain acts from Jesus — like bringing back someone's eye sight or bring them back to life from the DEAD — they didn’t have social media, twitter feeds and Facebook like we do. Instead they TOLD everyone the knew! The word was literally passed down from generation to generation to now us via the Bible. How lucky we are that it was written and transcribed! 

You think they had book making machines back then? Dude...we're talking B.C. vs. A.D here! — before or after Christ. I'M NOT MAKING THIS STUFF UP! 

So now, whenever I can read the bible, I’m amazed at all the things that happened, all the witnesses that came forth. 

How’s that for a mind blow? 

So what can YOU do?

What are 4 simple things you could do today to build a better life? 

#1. Write a list of what you want in life — Just like how I did. Once you start setting goals, you can take each day like a tiny step towards achieving that goal. And the working up of achieving that goal, my friend, is the journey of life. (Hope I'm not blowing your mind too hard.)

#2. Write a list of all the things that excite you — Create a Pinterest board or collage of pictures of all the things that you enjoy. Follow every Instagram and Facebook group that lifts you up every time you see them. Just don't forget to use that ish sparingly. You want to spend more time working on you, so that eventually you could help others. 

For example, I love landscape photography and nature, so I follow photographers with that view point. I also enjoy the Apple and Nike brands and realize they make me feel “strong”, and “lift me up". Knowing what makes YOU happy will teach you who you are, and you’ll need this eventually when making your own brand. 

#3. Meet people — The more people you meet, the more you’re realize we’re all the same. It’ll bring your ego down to where it needs to be and you’ll be able to be yourself around them because you don’t have to feel censored. Just remember to treat others how you’d like to be treated. Whether you want to believe it or not, you’ll be networking with people without even knowing it! 

#4. Pray — When you pray, you shut out all the noise from your life. You’re focused and can begin to think how grateful you are for the things you have and for being where you’re at right now. There're so many people who wish they could be where you’re at, who don’t even have water, a running toilet or freedom of education. Oh and by the way, God hears EVERY prayer. Every single one. Trust in Him.

Be grateful for the things you have, your health, your hearing, your eye sight. It might seem small, but in reality these things are huge. When your tooth hurts, you don't realize how lucky you are when it doesn't. Am I right? 

To be honest, I pray every day. It helps clear my mind, release negative emotions, and gives me peace and strength. 

Don't worry. Pray. 

There you have it. Hope this helps — it's absolutely helped me realize my goals and how to live a more fulfilling life. But now it’s your turn. Take 20 minutes right NOW and make that list and be MESSY making it.

Write them all down as fast as you can!

Sooner or later you’ll start to do what makes you happy, and in turn you'll be able to help others and make them happy.

For some, all it takes is a pencil.  

Signing out, 





What is "Vulnerability" & 5 WAYS TO MASTER IT


What is "Vulnerability" & 5 WAYS TO MASTER IT

Recently I was listening to Amy Winehouse and stumbled on a quote of hers saying:

"I'm not frightened of appearing vulnerable." (Amy Winehouse as an opera character by the way could easily be comparable to that of a Carmen or Violetta in my eyes ― especially the latter in terms of drug abuse.)

Well it so happens that in the world of opera, we talk a lot about “what it means to be vulnerable”. It’s the hot topic on everyone’s mind that everyone’s trying to figure out.

What does it look like? Why are tenors so good at it? Are being and acting vulnerable the same thing or completely different all together? How can it be achieved?

I can’t even begin to tell you how much this one word has mystified me over the years, ever since I first heard it at Joyce DiDonato’s first masterclass at Juilliard and then in a personal letter from her in regards to a video application I sent out.   

Why? Because it’s so complex! There’s a multitude of meaning behind that one word! How can one, single word hold such vastitude of meaning? 

Upon a quick Google search of the word “Vulnerability” I am inundated with sites on dating tips and why being vulnerable is so attractive. Apparently this isn’t just a buzz word in the opera world after all…

I found quotes like:

So if to be vulnerable is to love, then no wonder opera is all about vulnerability. It's 99% about love! (You'd think opera is also about revenge or death, but really they all stem from love.) 

So after further investigation I found: 

“Somewhere along the way, we lose our nerve, and that vulnerability begins to scare us.” (Brian Speck,

Throughout our lives and as we grow older, we're taught by our teachers and parents to control our emotions and tongues. Not to speak unless we’re told. 

Of course only to find out that when learning how to sing classically the opposite is in fact true and that what you really need to do is to “let go”. 

Well, isn’t that precisely what being vulnerable’s all about?  

After receiving that personal letter from Joyce I decided I needed to figure this out once and for all. I went to every singer, director, conductor and coach that I could find and asked this very question:

“What's your idea of vulnerability?”
“Is there a specific look that you could equate it to?”

It’s no surprise that I got a different answer every time. Obviously, no two people are a-like in thinking, but still. So let’s look at the comparisons I got:

A majority said it’s “open-ness”.

Ok…but how to LOOK open? Is it in the body or face or both? I’m assuming with the body shoulders are back and relaxed, face is upward and receiving, any tension in the joints and jaw are unhinged. 

But what about the face? What can I do right NOW to get that “O” face? (Ha, no pun intended.)

This brings me to ask, have you ever watched Anna Netrebko perform? (Opera’s most famous singer of today. Of course we all love her. Those who don’t are just in denial.)

I can’t help but notice whenever she sings how “open” she is. What do I mean? 

Well…it’s, sort of complicated.

See, in opera we’re taught the importance of “expression” in one’s face. We’re told things like “inner smile", "think of a third eye” or “the look of astonishment”. Why? Because they’re all ways of thinking to help us achieve that inner stretch and cavital space we need in order to have the space to produce those high a$$ notes, because God forbid we sing flat…

...there's a reason why they're called "money notes" ya know...

But whenever I watch Anna Netrebko…in that special moment it’s as if her face becomes expressionless. And it’s beautiful. At that moment we know she's become vulnerable. And me not even fully understanding what the look of vulnerability was, could physically SEE it on her face. And I felt it deep inside: 

“But what about all the things we’re told to do with expression?!”, you ask.

Just because her face becomes expressionless doesn’t mean it’s not forward thinking! 

Can you see where I'm going with this? Key word here is *Forward! >>> Always, always in opera and any of the performing arts you must think ahead in thought and intension. 

You see, having an expressionless face is one thing. 

But having an expressionless face facing upwards how she does, where one can feel the heat of the spotlight illuminate their face and their body’s not collapsed (feel a string pulling you upwards from your spine)…well that, I believe is more like the look of vulnerability that we’re all trying to achieve. That physical “open-ness” that everyone’s talking about.

Try standing where you are and do that. Feels a little strange, huh? It’s not like you walk into work standing tall like Hercules every day, does it? But it's starting to feel a little more empowering, right?

Let's take it a step further. 

Have you ever thought about something really hard where after a while you begin to space out? It's mostly the kind we deal with when thinking about our future or a specific person.  Forming futuristic ideals, if you may. 

Just think about it. Whenever you’re deep in thought like that, focus on what your eyes are doing. Are they wide open? Are they squinted? Which one looks more free? More inviting, less obtrusive?

The ones that are O P E N , of course!

You see, Netrebko hooks us all because she speaks with her eyes. And when she opens those puppies, it’s like we all melt in our seats. Heck even Paula Deen aint got that much butter melting on her skillet for a family of fifty! (Ok I’m exaggerating, but come’on…last time I heard she was cooking with lard?)

You see, it’s all in the being subtle. Many times we’re told “less is more”. 

Well, now you can see why! 

See, in opera there’s always a “finding the balance” in everything, including tension…oh boy now I’m really getting deep into technique. I’ll have to write another blog post just about tension...

On one hand you can’t have too much tension, otherwise you’ll hit a wall. But if you don’t have any tension, then you’ll fall flat like spaghetti. Not cool, bro. Not cool. 

It takes strength — but a certain kind of strength. 

For example, if I was to put my arm up in a flexing position and flex my muscle really hard, sooner or later my arm would start to shake, right? 

And if I relax it completely then my arm would fall to my side, right? 

Well what if I held it up without trying to flex my muscles. Just rest it in the air, my body still working to support it.

See, that’s the kind of balance I’m talking about. Strength finessed. 

Not fitness — but finessed


Got it? 

(If you still don’t get it, write me a note and I’ll try and send you a short video demonstration of what I mean — just don’t go posting it everywhere…I don’t want to turn out like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton.) ;) 

Now don’t get me wrong. We all love those badass characters when they enter the stage like a m.f. beast and can slaughter their aria or coloratura like the lion(ness) they are! (Hollah, Diana Damrau!) Yes, all of you Don Giovannis, Queen of the Nights and baroque counter tenors out there, you know we love you!

But it's those characters like Violetta (from Verdi’s La traviata), Jiuliette (from Bellini’s I Capuleti e i Montecchi [aka Romeo and Juliette]), Marie (from Donizetti’s La fille du régiment), Blanche (from Poulenc’s Dialogues des Carmélites), Nemorino (from Donizetti’s L’elisir d'amore), Charlotte and Werther (from Massenet's Werther) or Tatyana (from Tchaikovsky's Eugene Onegin) who really get our blood boiling and cooling all at once. 

If you don't believe me, just watch the following: ...oh and BTW what you're about to witness is EXTREMELY RARE — it's called an encore. (When the audience begs the performer to repeat the ridiculously difficult aria they just performed, so by doing so they must be of Godly proportions):

If vulnerability is to love, then this one tops them all. Here in this remarkable moment we see Villazon spilling his guts, baring his wounds for all to see. (Seriously, who wouldn't want to lick those wounds?) And in doing so, him opening up his heart to us, in turn opens up our hearts to him. In this perpetual giving and receiving of love from both sides it's as if one can see the circle of life! (Er'body knows Disney references are the best.) 

They are the ones who can ignite a fire within us and a yet cool us all at once.

Interestingly we can find a similar parallel in Christian teachings of the Holy Spirit, using the metaphors water vs fire. 

John the Baptist came preaching repentance and baptizing in the wilderness of Judea, and he was sent as a herald to announce the arrival of Jesus, the Son of God. He announced,

“I baptize you with water for repentance. But after me will come one who is more powerful that I, whose sandals I am not fit to carry. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and with fire.” (Matthew 3:11)

This can also be seen in Luke 3: 7-17:

“John answered them all, “I baptize you with water. But one more powerful than I will come, the thongs of whose sandals I am not worthy to untie. He will baptize you will the Holy Spirit and with fire.” (Luke 3:16)

So what are our key take aways?

What are 5 things we could do to achieve vulnerability? 

#1. Honesty  

The audience can tell in a split second if you’re not 100% honest and committed as the character. Do some serious character analysis. Who am I? Where am I? What do I wantWhat is getting in the way of what I want? 

#2. Body & posture  

It’s important to keep an upward physical sensation no matter where you are on stage. Take a look at professional dancers. Think, where are my shoulders? Are they too high or can I relax them a little without compromising my posture? How about my jaw? Is it tense, or can I focus on relaxing the space between them (aka unhinging the molars - it’s important to know these key words within the anatomy). 

#3. The thought of “tomorrow” (aka "thinking forward")

 I love this one and it’s perhaps one of my favorites. My French colleague told me about it from working with an acting director. He said, “sing as if whatever you’re talking about is something you want tomorrow.” What he means is that by thinking of it as a futuristic action you will feel less restricted. By actually "thinking forward", the "forward thinking" that we're trying to achieve will happen naturally. (Man, that was a tongue twister.)

#4. Love your audience

This one might seem a little scary at first, but just remember, don’t be afraid! Look, I know how scary it can be to get on-stage in front of a huge orchestra, conductor and entire audience staring at you with beaming eyes, but trust me. The more you “love thy audience” instead of trying to “figure out how to be comfortable”, the more successful you'll be at owning the stage. If you’re not comfortable with that, it’s ok. “Fake it till you make it”, as my sister would say.

#5. Love bath

Whether you’re singing to the audience (upwards and out) or to your partner on stage (hopefully not blocking you), imagine that you’re literally raining love onto them. Take all the love and appreciation from within you and spray it on them as you perform, showering them in a bath of love. To be honest, I can’t take full credit for this tip because again my one and only sister had reminded me of it before my debut with the Saint Louis Symphony. (Their stage is super close to the audience and it can feel intimidating when you’re on it for the first time.) 

It totally works. Not only does it work, but it’s super gratifying as well.

And you’ll have people from the audience come up to you after the show and say how amazing your stage presence was and that they felt like you were singing right to them! Believe me, I’m NOT making this stuff up! 

Disclaimer: Be careful. Your look of vulnerability can make you become so attractive that you might attract others without even knowing it. Make sure your on-stage partner is completely aware that you're a 100% committed actor on-stage and in rehearsals, and that whatevers happening is just “acting”. Super important. 

So there you have it. My tips for how to be vulnerable on-stage and even in life. And for those non-performers, try it on your next date. See what happens! Just don't forget to let me know how it worked. ;)

Signing out,